…We had an angel instead

Hey all! These next two weeks are going to be crazy for me. We are moving and getting packed and unpacked so I may not get to post as much as I want to during this time but I will do my best! Cant wait to show you all my new place! ❤
Today I wanted to post about losing a pregnancy. I know so many people that miscarriage has affected.
Pregnancy and loss
Pregnancy is supposed to be a beautiful time in a woman’s life. Unfortunately sometimes life turns your whole world around and puts a hole in your heart forever. A miscarriage is when you lose the pregnancy most commonly during the first trimester or before 15 weeks. Statistically 50% of miscarriages occur because there is an abnormal number of chromosomes.
Sadly 10% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I mentioned the most common cause being the chromosomal problem. There are many other potential risk factors for a miscarriage. Some other risk factors include:
• Hormonal imbalance: Approximately 15% of all miscarriages are because of imbalanced hormones.
• High fever of 102 or above could cause a miscarriage especially before 6 weeks of pregnancy.
• Uterine problems or fibroids in the uterus can cause problems with the blood supply to the baby or can cause implantation issues.
• Chronic illnesses can cause up to 6% of miscarriages.
• Illnesses such as diabetes, lupus, autoimmune diseases, heart disease, and kidney disease.
• Certain medications
• Maternal age (over 35)
• Drug use, smoking or alcohol use
These are a few risk factors of a miscarriage. So how do we know if we are having a miscarriage. Some of the symptoms include:
• Bleeding (spotting in early pregnancy is normal)
• Nausea and vomiting (also can be common in pregnancy)
• Passing tissue or a clot
• Severe cramps
Sometimes women experience no symptoms especially if very early in the pregnancy. Unfortunately there is no way to stop a miscarriage from happening.
Ectopic pregnancy or tubal pregnancy happens when a fertilized egg attaches somewhere that isn’t your uterus. If this happens you must receive treatment because the Fallopian tube can’t grow a baby. Treatment for an ectopic pregnancy is necessary. Without treatment this could actually kill you. This happens in about 1 in 50 pregnancies. Risk factors of tubal pregnancies include:
• A birth defect or an abnormal growth could affect the tubes shape which could affect the ability for the egg to pass through the tube.
• Scar tissue or previous surgery
• Infection or inflammation of the tube
• Age plays a factor if you are above 35 years old you are at a higher risk
• Endometriosis
• Fertility medication
Symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy
• Stabbing, sharp pain in stomach or pelvis
• Bleeding
• Dizziness or fainting
How do you move on from having a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy? There are so many emotions you may experience after a horrible loss. Then your hormones are trying to level back out so you may be all over the place emotionally. You may feel angry, guilty or sad. This is completely normal and is to be expected. During this time it’s so important to rely on your friends, family and loved ones. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or express your feelings. Join a support group or go to counseling to help you work through this emotional experience. Remember that you aren’t alone and your partner will also be grieving that loss. Regardless of how far along you were do something to remember your baby.
When you are ready you can try again. Getting pregnant again doesn’t mean you are replacing the baby you lost. Make sure you talk to your doctor to confirm you are in good health. You need to take care of yourself. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet and exercise.
I had thought about not writing this because I know how hard this can be for someone who has experienced this loss. I am lucky, I haven’t had a miscarriage but I know many women that have. I decided to write this not only to inform others about how common a miscarriage is. Also to let every single person who many read this that you are not alone. While I can’t speak from experience I am here for anyone who needs someone to talk too. I will be the ear you can vent to in complete confidentiality. If you have experienced this loss, please know I am extremely sorry you have had to go through this and know I am here. ❤

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