Have you ever had a million things going on or a mental list of things you need to get done? This is my brain all day every day. My brain gets so overwhelmed that I don’t know where to start. Did you know that chronic depression causes brain damage. Its hard to understand depression unless you have experienced it yourself. It’s a difficult mental illness. I know how I should think and behave but my brain drags me into the opposite direction. If you have never experienced depression consider yourself lucky. There are some things that I would like to share that I’ve learned can be helpful over the years.
Depression is very hard to talk about. Like I mentioned in a earlier post that I hate talking about my feelings and showing my emotions. I especially don’t like talking about my depression. On top of talking about my feelings, I feel like I can’t explain how and what I am feeling. I did find something that can help make a little sense of it all. Joy turns into lifelessness. Fears and anxieties become paralyzing. Sadness becomes mourning.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health 350 million people suffer from depression. But when I am depressed I feel all alone. Say you have a friend with depression and most everyone knows at least one person who has depression. If you have that friend and you want to talk to them but aren’t sure where to start here are some tips.
- Let them know that your conversation is going to stay between the two of you.
- Ask me what you can do to help
- Let them know not to worry
- Let them know you care and that it’s an important conversation
- Be okay with silence for long periods during the conversation
- Be patient
Sometimes with depression you don’t want to talk, you want someone to be there. I am thankful that I have my friends and significant other who are always there for me. I am not depressed every single day. There are good day and there are bad days. Depression to me is summed up by me being exhausted during the day and not able to find the energy to get things done. At night I lay in bed wide awake stressed out over everything that I didn’t do during the day.
Just be willing to sit with someone in silence or let them talk if and when they are ready to talk about their depression. They will be forever thankful for you.