What was life without internet? I remember not having internet until I was in 3rd or 4th grade. Then we had a dial up internet where we couldn’t use the landline when we used the internet. We didn’t have Facebook but had Myspace and instead of texting we had instant messenger. Life was easier without constant access to the internet. We didn’t have to deal with everything being on the web for everyone to see. We also didn’t have cyber bullying like we do today.
I am not afraid to admit that I am addicted to social media. I spend way to much time on the internet. Social media apps like Facebook were made to hold your attention as long as possible. It does a good job of doing that. It also gives anyone the ability to comment on your life and unfortunately bully you. Social media also gives people the ability to talk to anyone, even people they may not know. This could be a good way to make new friends. You may also encounter some not so good people. Which can be scary especially with the kids we have on the internet today.
People often use social media to help with the feeling of loneliness. It’s shown that those who are lonely in normal life a lot of time seek attention from someone online. This makes you feel not so lonely for a little bit. It doesn’t replace the important face-to-face relationships. Today people tend to use texting, email and social media to communicate instead of being face-to-face. I admit to doing this especially when my anxiety is bothering me.
The constant use of social media can affect your mental health. It seems that everything a competition. Everything is about who can get the most likes or comments. This alone can affect your mental health. There has been many studies that show the link between prolonged cell phone and social media use. Studies show the link between social media and anxiety. You may also experience depression, eating problems, insomnia, and increased risk of suicide. This is caused by bullying or the jealousy of not getting the “likes” or seeing something negative that affects your mood.
There can be positive things with the use of the internet. You can use it for good to talk about your mental health. You can use it to contact family that may live across the country. You are able to share photos with family and friends for those who aren’t able to be around. We need to learn to limit our time spent online and spend more time with our loved ones face-to-face.
You may not even realize what social media is doing to your mental health. It can affect your self-esteem and its 100% has affected mine. I see all these women who are in shape and seem to live these “picture perfect” lives with their loved ones. But in reality their lives aren’t perfect. Everyone makes their lives seem better online then it truly is but we do have our ups and downs.
Having Facebook, Instagram or any other social media can pop up with memories. Sometimes these memories are great. I love seeing old photos and memories of my kids or friends. Then there are some painful memories that come up. Whether it is from previous relationships or any other times that I may have experienced over the years.
One of the most important things in life is human connection. Social media takes away that human connection when we are always starting at our phones or computers. It also disrupts our sleep. We lay in bed scrolling through our phones. This keeps our brains awake and unable to relax to fall asleep. We wake up a lot of people grab their phones and once again start scrolling through their social media. We are so worried about what we have missed while they were asleep.
My goal for this month is to not use my private Facebook page as much as I do. I will still continue to write but wont be on my personal page as often as I am currently. I want to focus more on those around me than these on my social media pages. ❤