Exciting Exciting News

It seems like it’s been forever since I last wrote and life is crazy, but I did want to update you guys on everything going on in my life. While this has been sort of put on the back burner, I am hoping to be able to find the time to start writing at least weekly again! As I told you all last time, I started school and I was planning on major in business administration with a concentration in HR. After thinking about it and doing some research I decided to change my major. I am now going to be majoring in Psychology with a concentration of mental health. This is something that is very near and dear to me and it made perfect sense to focus my career with a path that I would enjoy. I have also been doing some research to become a peer support specialist and I am hoping to take the week long class in August. So many exciting things are going on, not only with school but in my personal life also.
As many of you know that Dalton and I had gotten back together about a year ago and in February we moved out into our little farm house that we love! We finally were able to trade in our jeep for a new truck and it has a ton more space for the boys in the back plus we can tow and carry bigger items. Then about a week after we got our new truck, we found out that WE ARE PREGNANT!!!!! It was a shock to us, but we are very excited to be welcoming another bundle of joy into our lives. Since finding out that I am pregnant it meant that I had to stop taking almost all my medications including my antidepressant. This has been a STRUGGLE for the past week and a half or so. I am working on trying to find ways to channel my emotions and not take them out on my loved ones. I am only human though and I will tell you it has been very hard. I see my OB this month and I hope I can get something to help with my depression during the next several months. I have been doing some research on pregnancy and depression and I will share what I have discovered. Not only about the topic in generally and what relates to me and my body. 
We are all very excited to have another babe join our crazy family. There are lots of babies being born within the next 9 months on both sides of my family. My sister had her baby boy, my other sister is currently pregnant with her baby. On my dad’s side of the family both my step-sisters are pregnant, and a cousin. We will be having 3 babies under ONE of my mom’s side once my bundle arrives in February 2020 and there will be 6 babies under ONE on my dad’s side. Apparently, we all just need to stay away from each other because pregnancy is contagious this year! 😊
Here are some of the fun things that have happened recently, and I promise you will start seeing more posts soon. I am currently only taking one class per term right now so it will help me free up some time to work on something I love to do which is write. Love to all! ❤

Social Media VS Mental Health

What was life without internet? I remember not having internet until I was in 3rd or 4th grade. Then we had a dial up internet where we couldn’t use the landline when we used the internet. We didn’t have Facebook but had Myspace and instead of texting we had instant messenger. Life was easier without constant access to the internet. We didn’t have to deal with everything being on the web for everyone to see. We also didn’t have cyber bullying like we do today.
I am not afraid to admit that I am addicted to social media. I spend way to much time on the internet. Social media apps like Facebook were made to hold your attention as long as possible. It does a good job of doing that. It also gives anyone the ability to comment on your life and unfortunately bully you. Social media also gives people the ability to talk to anyone, even people they may not know. This could be a good way to make new friends. You may also encounter some not so good people. Which can be scary especially with the kids we have on the internet today.

People often use social media to help with the feeling of loneliness. It’s shown that those who are lonely in normal life a lot of time seek attention from someone online. This makes you feel not so lonely for a little bit. It doesn’t replace the important face-to-face relationships. Today people tend to use texting, email and social media to communicate instead of being face-to-face. I admit to doing this especially when my anxiety is bothering me.

The constant use of social media can affect your mental health. It seems that everything a competition. Everything is about who can get the most likes or comments. This alone can affect your mental health. There has been many studies that show the link between prolonged cell phone and social media use. Studies show the link between social media and anxiety. You may also experience depression, eating problems, insomnia, and increased risk of suicide. This is caused by bullying or the jealousy of not getting the “likes” or seeing something negative that affects your mood.

There can be positive things with the use of the internet. You can use it for good to talk about your mental health. You can use it to contact family that may live across the country. You are able to share photos with family and friends for those who aren’t able to be around. We need to learn to limit our time spent online and spend more time with our loved ones face-to-face.

You may not even realize what social media is doing to your mental health. It can affect your self-esteem and its 100% has affected mine. I see all these women who are in shape and seem to live these “picture perfect” lives with their loved ones. But in reality their lives aren’t perfect. Everyone makes their lives seem better online then it truly is but we do have our ups and downs.

Having Facebook, Instagram or any other social media can pop up with memories. Sometimes these memories are great. I love seeing old photos and memories of my kids or friends. Then there are some painful memories that come up. Whether it is from previous relationships or any other times that I may have experienced over the years.
One of the most important things in life is human connection. Social media takes away that human connection when we are always starting at our phones or computers. It also disrupts our sleep. We lay in bed scrolling through our phones. This keeps our brains awake and unable to relax to fall asleep. We wake up a lot of people grab their phones and once again start scrolling through their social media. We are so worried about what we have missed while they were asleep.

My goal for this month is to not use my private Facebook page as much as I do. I will still continue to write but wont be on my personal page as often as I am currently. I want to focus more on those around me than these on my social media pages. ❤




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…We had an angel instead

Hey all! These next two weeks are going to be crazy for me. We are moving and getting packed and unpacked so I may not get to post as much as I want to during this time but I will do my best! Cant wait to show you all my new place! ❤
Today I wanted to post about losing a pregnancy. I know so many people that miscarriage has affected.
Pregnancy and loss
Pregnancy is supposed to be a beautiful time in a woman’s life. Unfortunately sometimes life turns your whole world around and puts a hole in your heart forever. A miscarriage is when you lose the pregnancy most commonly during the first trimester or before 15 weeks. Statistically 50% of miscarriages occur because there is an abnormal number of chromosomes.
Sadly 10% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I mentioned the most common cause being the chromosomal problem. There are many other potential risk factors for a miscarriage. Some other risk factors include:
• Hormonal imbalance: Approximately 15% of all miscarriages are because of imbalanced hormones.
• High fever of 102 or above could cause a miscarriage especially before 6 weeks of pregnancy.
• Uterine problems or fibroids in the uterus can cause problems with the blood supply to the baby or can cause implantation issues.
• Chronic illnesses can cause up to 6% of miscarriages.
• Illnesses such as diabetes, lupus, autoimmune diseases, heart disease, and kidney disease.
• Certain medications
• Maternal age (over 35)
• Drug use, smoking or alcohol use
These are a few risk factors of a miscarriage. So how do we know if we are having a miscarriage. Some of the symptoms include:
• Bleeding (spotting in early pregnancy is normal)
• Nausea and vomiting (also can be common in pregnancy)
• Passing tissue or a clot
• Severe cramps
Sometimes women experience no symptoms especially if very early in the pregnancy. Unfortunately there is no way to stop a miscarriage from happening.
Ectopic pregnancy or tubal pregnancy happens when a fertilized egg attaches somewhere that isn’t your uterus. If this happens you must receive treatment because the Fallopian tube can’t grow a baby. Treatment for an ectopic pregnancy is necessary. Without treatment this could actually kill you. This happens in about 1 in 50 pregnancies. Risk factors of tubal pregnancies include:
• A birth defect or an abnormal growth could affect the tubes shape which could affect the ability for the egg to pass through the tube.
• Scar tissue or previous surgery
• Infection or inflammation of the tube
• Age plays a factor if you are above 35 years old you are at a higher risk
• Endometriosis
• Fertility medication
Symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy
• Stabbing, sharp pain in stomach or pelvis
• Bleeding
• Dizziness or fainting
How do you move on from having a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy? There are so many emotions you may experience after a horrible loss. Then your hormones are trying to level back out so you may be all over the place emotionally. You may feel angry, guilty or sad. This is completely normal and is to be expected. During this time it’s so important to rely on your friends, family and loved ones. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or express your feelings. Join a support group or go to counseling to help you work through this emotional experience. Remember that you aren’t alone and your partner will also be grieving that loss. Regardless of how far along you were do something to remember your baby.
When you are ready you can try again. Getting pregnant again doesn’t mean you are replacing the baby you lost. Make sure you talk to your doctor to confirm you are in good health. You need to take care of yourself. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet and exercise.
I had thought about not writing this because I know how hard this can be for someone who has experienced this loss. I am lucky, I haven’t had a miscarriage but I know many women that have. I decided to write this not only to inform others about how common a miscarriage is. Also to let every single person who many read this that you are not alone. While I can’t speak from experience I am here for anyone who needs someone to talk too. I will be the ear you can vent to in complete confidentiality. If you have experienced this loss, please know I am extremely sorry you have had to go through this and know I am here. ❤